Is Fear & Your Weight Issues Holding You Back From the Life You Are Destine To Live?

WE ARE ALL BORN WITH ONE FEAR…being dropped as an infant.  All the other fears we have as adults are learned along the way as a product of our growing up and experiences.

I met a young woman just this month who was afraid if she lost weight her friends would leave her and she would be alone.  For some of you reading this you may be saying… that’s terrible – if they were true friends they’d stick by your side no matter what. But for many individuals, who have lost friends because they moved away, passed away or drifted down another path… no matter what, this is how they feel and as a result would rather be unhealthy and miserable than friendless.

Another gal I recently had the pleasure of meeting, who’s terrific… is fearful that by stating another “diet plan” will result in that all too familiar yo-yo syndrome we’ve all experienced. So rather than taking a step towards a healthy life style… this reasoning is another way for her to stay frozen in time, overweight, unhealthy and unhappy.

I had my own fears. I was destine to be overweight!  In my mind I had convinced myself that no matter what others did – they were not me. They were the lucky ones that found success and could grab on to the golden ring of health. No me… I was not one of the lucky ones.

 I just could not see myself as thin. I was the pretty face, the smart one, the one that could light up a room and be the life of the party… and the one who would always be “heavy”.  I believed this. It was my reality and my prison. My lot in life and I lived with it the best I could for 40 plus years. I created a false reality for myself and was not able to see that I could change.

That is until… I got it!  The “IT” we are all looking for!  That ONE THING that turns your life on a dime… It’s not surgery or pills. It’s definitely not starvation or a cabbage diet that stinks up the house! 

The “IT” I found was a gift from a dear friend of mine who to me had always been a thin guy. Someone you shrugged off as being out of touch with what being fat was all about.  What do skinny people know about living in a fat body? They don’t!  They have no stinking idea of the shame and humiliation we drag along with us every place we go… day-in and day-out.  So as a fat person with my own set of beliefs I blew him off.  Several times… until I got cornered and with the look of a desperate animal in the headlights of an oncoming car I asked; “What is the minimum time commitment I have to give you”? And the reply was: 5 weeks! “God Help Me” was my first reaction and guess what… He already had!

OK — I made up my mind… I can do ANYTHING for 5 weeks, even a new “diet”… Little did I know this was no ordinary diet! IT is a way of LIFE. The best gift anyone could have presented me with.  The Gift of Health.

For Five Weeks…

  • I never went hungry.
  • I was not a grouch.
  • I had tons of energy.

After three weeks I was ready for more… in 18 weeks I hit my goal and lost 40 pounds

For a total of 100 pounds!

 Today I don’t see myself as the one who’s overweight… I see myself as healthy and living in a thin body that’s full of energy and vitality. 

I love my new life, my new friends who are living a healthy life, and best of all I love myself.

What are you afraid of?

Are you more concerned with what other people think of you… Really it’s none of your business what they think.

What you think of yourself is all that really matters.

 How do you feel about yourself right now?

Are you ready to make a life long commitment to your own health?

If you are ready for a happier, healthy life…I can help you.  I’ve lost over 100 pounds and kept it off.  I know your struggles and fears. I have fought them and won. My clients LOVE working with me because I have been in their shoes and understand the challenges they face.  I educate them and show them how to eat smart and make good choices so their day to day choices… become Habits of Health.

 Joyce Blonskij, Health Coach for Take Shape For “LIFE”

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Stuck looking at the same 5lbs 50lbs or 100lbs? 3 Tips To Break the Cycle & Lose Weight

If you are sick of seeing the same weight on the scale I am going to share with you this week three ways to break the cycle and lose those unwanted pounds once and for all.

 Tip #1: Change it up!  You are probably doing the same thing week after week and getting the same results.  OK I know what I’m talking about.  I was stuck in the same nine pounds for a year and a half. Yes 18 months… and I was frustrated and angry with myself. 

This can be a way to sabotage yourself or even allow other to take control of how you manage your day and the ways you eat.

I though my eating was good and I was getting enough exercise. But guess what?  I was kidding myself.  By the time I realized that I was stuck in this vortex of 9 pounds – I just could not get back on track.  I tried this and that. My resolve stunk. And I frankly was sick and tired of eating the same foods day in and day out. Enough already! At some point you just get sick of yourself and I was there. Ready to make that “change“.  102 pounds slimmer I thank God every day I took the first step to getting my life and my health back.


and in this case…  CHANGE is SUCCESS & GOOD HEALTH

What do you change?  Well there are those of you who will do just about anything. And I mean anything.  Let’s not go overboard however; I’m talking about a jump start not surgery or diet pills. Let’s look at three areas that a little change can add up to lots of pounds shed.

  1. How you eat.
  2. Where you eat.
  3. What you eat.

How You Eat Is Important.

Do you eat slow or fast?  Studies show it takes our brain 20 minutes to know we are eating and full. I know from my past I could shovel in two or three times the amount of food by body needed in 20 minutes… By the time by brain caught up with my stomach, I felt stuffed – way over stuffed. By then I had conditioned myself to know that over stuffed feeling, and the only way I knew to stop eating was when I was miserably full. 

Start by: Setting your fork down between bites and chew your food. 

This will allow your brain to know when you’re full and all that chewing will help in your digestion.

Where You Eat Is Important.

Do you eat in the car, in front of the TV or standing up? Bad habits….these need to be changed – and right now!

Meals are not meant to be eaten in your car. That can be dangerous and not satisfying. Oh it get’s you by but it’s not quality and that’s what we are striving for with the changes that need to be made.

If you are hungry and need something to tie you over, I suggest keeping a few almonds in your car and a bottle of water OR a 110 calorie bar that contains no more than 13 grams (g) of carbohydrates and less than 3 sugars so your insulin doesn’t spike, and less then 4 g of total fat.  Bars should also have at a minimum 10 g of protein so you won’t get hungry right away.

If you’re eating and watching TV by the time the commercial comes along your meal is half done or finished and you miss the satisfaction of the meal.

Eating for most of us is more than nourishing our bodies.  We eat for just about every occasion and even make a few up along the way.  Look at what you’re putting in your mouth. Smell the aroma of your food. Allow your mouth to enjoy and identify the flavors.  If you driving, watching TV, or gulping food down standing at the kitchen sink so you can bolt out the door to work you’ve miss the experience. Most likely you wont feel satisfied and those food cravings will haunt your for hours if not all day. 

The best place to eat a meal is at the table. Set a place mat down and make it an enjoyable experience. Do this for all your meals. I even do this at work! Try it and slow down and enjoy your food.

What You Are Eating Is Critical… If you are going to drop those pounds you have to be mindful of what you are putting in your mouth and how much of it you’re eating.

 If you are reaching for high calorie, fat, sugar and sodium foods you are headed for obesity. But really that’s not your BIGGEST problem… pardon the pun.  You are headed for a heart attack; stroke, cancer, high blood pressure, diabetes and the list go on…

 TRUE OR FALSE? You are offered a slice of cheese pizza with all the toping which you gladly accept! You then order a DIET SODA to keep the calories down. Or worse a high sugar drink for lets say another 300 calories! TRUE OR FALSE? Does that sound like something you’d do?  Only you can answer this question.

I have lunch every Wednesday at a pizza parlor with a business group. It’s easy to pass on the pizza because; I CHOOSE HEALTH – not high fat foods. My desire to feel good is stronger than the allure of the pizza. If eating a quarter of a pizza every week is stronger than your desire to get healthy and lose weight then I’d ask you just how committed to your health are you?

To help in this situation before you even open the door of a restaurant know what you are going to order. Don’t get side tracked by looking at the menu and order first. 

When your grocery shopping have a list made up and stick to it. Keep away from those isles you are temped by. And don’t go hungry.  When the lady offers you a taste – thank her and pass. Those tastes add up and can throw you off track. 

Eat wisely and cut your portions by half. 

Eat smaller portions and more often to keep your blood sugars level and keep you from being hungry.

I will be posting Tip #2 and Tip #3 later this week so please come back for more insights into good health and losing those unwanted pounds once and for all!

Joyce Blonskij ~ I am FREE Health Coach to anyone who has dieted and failed and is ready to make a change.

E-mail me your questions, to get more information and your success stories at

Call me TODAY to get started on a healthy path:  (916) 812-2378

I’ve lost 102 pounds and gone from a size 24 to a size 8/10 and so can you!

Small Changes & New Habits = 102lbs Slimmer